Don't Fight....Just Deal

Everyone has gone through times in life when something got stuck in the head like a pin. It just refuses to go away. Arrrrghhh! I can't handle it anymore! I am losing it! #$%& it! Remember these times? I clearly do. This happens to me a lot more times than I expect it should. Well, we're only human, you know.

These are the times when you go out for help. Some find help in lonely bars with a lots of glasses of numbness. Of course a huge headache and guilt awaits them the next morning. Some are a bit saner they find another person to help them take through these troubled times. I would any day prefer the later.

But sometimes life is cruel and help isn't handy. These are the times when it seems to 'go out' for help, isn't possible. But, is it so? I beg to differ now, especially after hearing what Tom Cruise (yes, the actor) said in an interview which I watched recently. I didn't expect to learn this from a Hollywood actor, but I did!

The question was simple, 'where do you go for inspiration, if at the end of the day it's not happening?’ The answer was a beautiful string of words (and I quote), 'When I get to that place when it's just not happening. I go for a walk and I look around.......I don't go this sucks! I am blowing it...I try to get extroverted. I step out...I'm feeling this right no. I'm tired....I take it from that point of view...I'm just going to take that and go with it. And from that comes energy because you're still creating. You're not giving up. You're not using efforts to fulfill that preconceived idea....because the worst thing I can do is vapour lock it...try to push it somewhere (I unquote).

The words that struck me are 'I try to get extroverted'. The scene of the turmoil is our mind. The only way to get out of turmoil is to get out! Perhaps that's what Mr. Cruise was referring to as well. I have to talk my mind out of the problem. I have to become the friend my mind is looking for. I'll sit with it and talk it through. Little bit of self-help, true! That's exactly what it is!

So be the friend your mind is looking for. Don't fight with the mind. Don't try to restrain your thoughts, just move out. Take a while and come back with to deal the situation. To deal means to be in charge. So next time some situation bogs you down, deal with it not be dealt by it.

Interesting quote

There was a Jesuit priest I knew once and somebody asked him, ‘What’s the shortest prayer in the world?’ And he said, ‘Fuck it’. That’s great, isn’t it?" —Anthony Hopkins