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Faking Humility | How to Stay Really Humble?

The number quality that is a favorite among major business leaders, spiritual leaders and women looking for life partners is humility. It is a quality that arms you with overwhelming sense of strength and peace. Or it could leave you completely in shambles because it tends to open up parts of your mind that weren't so receptive to all the bullshit that goes around in the world.

It is a tricky emotion to reside in your mind. Like any other emotion, say happiness, sadness, guilt, pride or indifference it shapes your personality and defines the core of your existence.

This leaves an interesting question - whether I can fake humility?

I can fake happiness, for sure. For example, when I meet an unpleasant person but I have to act as per the societal requirements that dictate that I be pleasant to this person. I act with a smile on my face. There are other examples, when you're in a group and you've to pretend you're enjoying the pleasantries, you fake happiness. I can fake sadness, I bet. A relative died, I didn't even knew him or her. But to feel part of the wake or mourners I fake sadness. I may even shed a tear or two. 

i can fake a lot of other emotions. Marlon Brando in an interview said that we do acting all the time. In fact each and everyone of us is living in a live reel that's called our life. We're acting each and every moment. You might be ready to go for a nap but your perhaps sitting with your partner, so as to not be rude to him or her. Your boss might be the most disgusting guy, but you're staring at him right now and even smiling a bit on his pathetic jokes. We're all actors. It is sometimes hard for me to understand what's real in the other person. Whether all the moments I felt were real are in fact just etiquette and norms that have been set by human beings from preventing the truth from ever coming out!

So can I fake humility? I'm leaning towards 'No' from my own personal experience. It is hard for me to fake humility. The number reason I cannot humility is that it requires a far more patience than faking any other emotion. It requires me to genuflect myself in front of another human being. Knowing the pride and prejudice that cloaks my mind & heart it is hard for me to think that I can genuinely genuflect myself. As a human being that still suffers from emotions like pride, hate and anger I cannot be deferential unless I really want to or the other person is far far superior to me.

The number two reason is a bit more spiritual or metaphysical in nature. Humility is the basest of emotion that acts as the origin of everything good. Let's consider I'm happy, why am I happy? Well I have come to terms that the current effect of a certain action, either caused by me or someone else, is beneficial to me. So I've let go of any incentives, expectations or motives for the moment. So I'm completely true to myself, at least for the moment. Even sadness can be caused by deep sense of humility or honest with oneself. Humility tears through any sense of pride and completely reveals me to myself. It is the perfect way to hear your inner voice and realize what you're, deep inside you.

So I believe I cannot fake humility. It is just next to impossible for me to fake humility. I can fake happiness, sadness, anger or any other emotion that is doesn't draws oneself closer to one's own heart. But ask me to fake humility, sorry I just can't.

Here is the interview of Marlon Brando where he describes that each of use is acting each and every moment of our lives.

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